Arguments are something rather frequent in every human relationship, but when we fail to stay calm in tough situations, we tend to make things worse. Since we can’t control others, we need to try to change ourselves and be more peaceful and understanding when other people are angry. Even though several hormones in our body make us mad, there are always ways to be patient and calm in case of a fight. So here are eight ways to keep your temper when you’re angry at someone:
1) Take a big breath
By taking a moment to breathe, you make the parasympathetic nervous system work to keep you calm. That can also prevent you from reacting instantly, which undoubtedly creates more problems. By relaxing your body parts, it becomes easier to think and behave accordingly.
Communication is critical to avoid misunderstandings. If you carefully listen to what other people have to say, you will be able to avoid the mistake of jumping to conclusions. Try to understand others’ opinions, so that you can come to a middle ground.
3) Be honest
Being honest with yourself and other people can help you avoid petty arguments in the first place. Discuss the issues that trouble you and try to sort them out to avoid fighting.
4) Try not to shout
Don’t scream at the other person and never interrupt them while fighting. That behavior demonstrates threat and lack of acknowledgment on your part. Try to talk in a lower voice to maintain civility as well as to show that you respect the other person’s opinion.
5) Keep some perspective
Do not lose yourself and don’t let the fight misguide you. By keeping your perspective, you can gradually identify how meaningless or ridiculous more fights are. That will quickly resolve the issue.
6) Don’t accept manipulation
Manipulative people will often play the victim and behave in a passive-aggressive way to win a fight. Never tolerate such behavior because it is equal to emotional abuse. If you argue with such a person, just end the fight, because they will never admit their mistake.
7) Be assertive
Never let the other person control you or walk over you. Be assertive so that you both can come to a reasonable conclusion. Don’t dwell on past arguments and try not to be aggressive.
8) Agree to disagree
Sometimes the wisest way to end an argument is to agree that you disagree with the other person. It’s not always possible to agree, so, in that case, it’s ok to detach yourself from the issue until you find a solution. If that’s impossible, then it might be better to seek professional help.
It’s not always possible to handle situations rationally. As we cannot control other people’s reactions, it’s better to focus on our behavior and try to keep our calm and distance ourselves from harmful and violent situations.