Sometimes finding a relationship that will last forever feels impossible. So what is it that makes one couple last and another fall? If you want to know if your relationship can last the distance, you need to consider a few things.
With so many of other people’s relationships falling apart around them, it’s not surprising that some people begin to wonder if their personal relationship will last. So, how can you tell that you genuinely have found ‘the one’?
If you are one of those who has doubts, then check out these ten signs that you are in a relationship that will last.
Relationships that are going places also include two people who talk about things. I’m not talking only about your favorite movies or songs. I’m talking about the important stuff like life decisions, good feelings, and bad feelings. Couples who talk to each other, stay together because they work out the problems before they become severe.
Also, soulmates use the same function words—such as pronouns, prepositions, conjunctions, and quantifiers. If you and your partner share this habit, then you have a higher likelihood of keeping it together.
Trust is an essential element of all relationships. Each partner should have faith in the other. We all know honesty is the best policy. You should not have to wonder if your lover is telling the truth.
If your partner respects you, they will not try to shield any information from you. They would never lie to you, in fact, they won’t feel the need to hide anything from you. There will be no secrets in the relationship, and they would even tell you about their ex.
If there are no secrets in your relationship, it sure means that you are with someone who certainly respects you.
3) Laughing together
A matching, or at least similar, sense of humor is crucial. If you can’t laugh together, there is zero future.
Research shows laughter has a positive impact on our physical and mental well-being and can stimulate the release of the feel-good hormones, endorphins – so it’s not surprise laughing with your other half is on top of many experts’ relationship ‘to do’ list.
Jokes also help people connect. Sharing a good belly laugh is a great way to improve work and personal relationships. And from a mental-health perspective, studies suggest that laughter can relieve depression and reduce feelings of loneliness.
4) Making plans
No one of you is commitment phobic. You both know that you have taken a plunge together in the relationship and you both from time to time talk about your plans.
You may not have necessarily decided upon moving in together, but it’s a thing you two frequently refer to. Not in a way that keeps you from enjoying the present together, of course, but in a way that ensures that you will have a future together.
Setting goals together, making plans for the kind of life you want to live with your partner, and checking in along the way helps to keep you connected as you dream together.
5) Truly knowing each other
When you begin to sense that the person you love is becoming more and more aware of the “real you” and trying to help you get your deepest needs satisfied, you are on the edge of a rich and fulfilling experience.
Just remember that the best way to stay yourself in a relationship is to maintain your interests.
When two people fall in love, they experience themselves and each other as separate individuals with distinct identities, and their personal ideas, interests, and friends. Their individuality is what makes them attractive to each other and, of course, you both truly know each other.
6) Supporting each other
Whether or not you share each others’ passions or life ambitions when you honestly care about someone you want to see them succeed and be happy in whatever they love. This means standing beside them, not in their way when they dedicate effort towards pursuing a goal.
Understanding and trust come only through years of kindness towards each other’s feeling, not judgment. Ask yourself this: do you have each other’s back in any situation, good or adverse? If yes, then you are in for the long haul.
Be kind and less judgmental towards yourself and apply the same attitude towards your partner. This would be the best climate for your relationship to thrive and be successful in.
You honor each other’s boundaries and encourage each other to pursue passions and dreams. If you love dancing, they invite you to do it. If you love traveling and they don’t, they encourage you to do it with friends.
You don’t expect them to fulfill all of your emotional needs, which is why you hang out with other people too (friends, family, etc.). You meet some of your emotional needs through others, and this does not threaten them.
Your partner is the most important person in your life, but not the only important person. They never make you feel invalidated, foolish or needy.
Some people think sex is overrated in a relationship, while others believe that there are many reasons why sex matters with your spouse. When you are in love, it can connect the two of you in a way unlike any other.
Let’s be honest: sex is important in the life of a couple. We know other factors make a healthy relationship, but this is a good benchmark to take into consideration.
Take a closer look at what goes on between the sheets; do you feel that you’re developing real, lasting intimacy?
9) Having fun together
The beginnings of relationships are so exciting because everything is so heightened. But it’s when you’re doing the mundane things of everyday life — eating dinner, grocery shopping, doing yard work, sitting on the couch watching TV — and are completely comfortable and content doing a whole lot of nothing, that’s love.
Taking time to hang out together, to share your day, to cuddle, to make love, to play, to laugh together and cry together — these are all relationship healing choices. Having this keeps your bond stronger.
Staying focused on crossing off everything on your to-do list can be relationship-destroying. Couples thrive when there is time for connection, and they fall apart when getting things done consistently has a higher priority than connection.
10) Common interests
For long-term relationships characterized by high commitment, greater perceived similarity (not less) is what predicts romantic liking.
So, ask yourself some tough questions about how similar you and your new partner remarkably are, regarding values, goals, leisure preferences, open-mindedness, etc.
It might give you some good insight into the potential staying power of the relationship.
Source: Thinking Humanity